When my second daughter chose to do commerce stream in +2 I was very very happy. No, not because she was following what she liked (well, in a way that too) but mostly because she was getting away from science. Believe me when I say she was (and still not is) not a science person. She dreads the subject. I don’t think she is afraid of it, but only that she does not “get” it.
I had told her that she would have to go through maths and science till 10th and then she can say goodbye to them. I know I had a lot of difficulty in teaching her those subjects. She would not go for tutions. I was her teacher. I tried a lot to make it interesting but she could not fathom the formulas and theorems. The experiments and results went over her head. No amount of stories or imagination made the atoms, acids, electricity or planets made her interested in them.
Anyway to cut the long story short, we both managed to complete 10th in a great way. She got reasonable grades in both science and maths. So we celebrated. 🙂
Now, at the start of +1, in the commerce stream, she had to choose 4 main subjects along with 2 languages. Three main subjects were a breeze. She found them interesting. The fourth subject was optional. The college we chose offered a choice between “Basic Mathematics” and “Computer Science”. Ahhh! Stalemate again.
Now we had to choose a lesser of two evils.
Mathematics drove her crazy. So she went with Computer Science.
We struggled through 2 years of CS. My god! How I worried and worried! I have lost count of how many times she and I have fights for this. I would tell her to study and she would postpone to the last minute. Argh!
I helped her by-heart all the practical questions. Made her write and rewrite, tell and re-tell. We went through this cycle over and over.
The theory was a challenge too. My elder daughter took up the responsibility of teaching her. Both of them had a tough time with it. The teacher taught and taught again. But the student found no salvation. It was always Greek and Latin for her. There was one chapter on Constructors and Destructors that i remember so well. My elder one says “I got destroyed, but nothing got constructed in her head!” LOL!
But all is well that ends well, says Shakespeare. She secured full marks in practicals and decent ones in theory, so overall she secured a first class in CS.
Boy! were we happy. She and I did a small dance holding each other. That must count as one of the most happy moments of my life!
Written for the July BarAThon 2018.
Today’s prompt is : Lesser of two evils
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Beautifully written Meena. All the best
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Don’t I know it!!!😂😂😂. Ah, the struggle with science! Divya’s statement is classic😉
On the flip side, we have no clue about commerce or accountacy or such. So good for her. Going into newer avenues.
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I know, It is all new for her. I can’t help her in any way! One things in life I can never really understand is to balance an account.
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I can understand. For me Chemistry was always a mystery. And I was so happy the day I left it behind/
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As a “Science” person, I just love all aspects of it. But, I never forced it on my daughter. Everyone on their own!
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I face a similar problem. My daughter is in the 7th grade and dislikes Math and Science immensely, though at the moment she is securing decent grades by constant coaching from my wife. We are waiting for the day she can leave behind these subjects. Nice post.
Here is my link to today’s #barathon post
http://www.jaispoetryblog.com/2018/07/lesser-of-two-evils-commander-maritz.html
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It is indeed an ordeal to teach a subject that is not interesting to the student. Hope you and your wife will be able to do a better job than me! Thanks for stopping by.
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Still a long way for me to reach there…but still it was relatable. Hope P is now happy in her chosen stream. D’s comment however takes the cake…lol!
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😀. Yes. P is finally away from it all!
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nice to read on this 🙂
#Barathon 2018
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Thank you!
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I cannot forget the struggle! It was one of the most difficult things I ever had to do!
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😁😁
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I really hope & wish all parents be having the same outlook, it will make children’s life lot earier
#Barathon Day 2: Lesser of the Two Evils
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That’s true. I am a big education fan, it does not matter to me what stream. But I suppose such thinking is lacking in most parents. Thank you Deepa!
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My parents were most supportive when I chose Chemistry Honors over Engineering. Your post touched a chord with me for being so relatable. Wish every parent was as supportive as you or my own set. The world would be a much better place for the children then. Kudos to you for being so supportive and encouraging.
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Thanks Sonia! Parents’ support makes all the difference.
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Meena haha haha……I was witnessed too. These memories will cherished with you all for ever.
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In retrospect, looking back they look good! But when we were going through them, they were not so funny! Thanks !
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Hats off to such a dedicated mom and older sister to preservers with her. Cheers for the all is well that ends well!
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Thanks shalz!
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Nicely recounted the experience meena. I have aversion to both maths and science and somehow I have an inkling that it’s going to be passed on to my daughter as well. 🙂
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I hope not! They are super subjects actually. Bekaar hi badnaam ho gaye
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I know and that’s why feel bad that I don’t like them!
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Try again with your child’s books! 😀
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I will have to do ! 🙂
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I am sure the tango dance your daughter and you engaged in must have been the most spectacular show! I so appreciate the girl for having clear ideas about likes and dislikes. Better was she stood by her choice. It shows strength of her character! Way to girl… many many congratulations on finishing +2 level.
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Thanks Anagha! Yes, we held each other and danced to our own voices! That was fun.
Oh! yes, she was quite clear in what she did NOT want to study. (wink)
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I so wanted to take up arts, but as the son of middle class Indian family my destiny was Engineering. Now that I did engineering I found that I had a liking for it. The sciences didn’t desert me 😀 (plus it helps me write science fiction)
This was such a fun read, Meena. Kudos to you and your elder daughter for your efforts. (Loved the quip about construction and destruction)
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Thanks Varad! You know, your science fiction is good. So that’s a plus!
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good read (by now I should add ‘as usual’! ) ji.
can imagine that one liner coming from a frustrated D! lol
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Thanks so much Shaini for the compliment!
D was so frustrated that day! Lol
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I think everyone has at least one subject that they detest. Glad P is over with the “horrible” stuff!! 😊 Loved Divya’s statement on construction and destruction! 😅
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She is happy now
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I know! She’ll do well too, I can tell you!
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